I previously wrote about the importance of self representation in relationships, but the messaging isn’t quite sticking. Here’s another example of how great intentions (that represent someone else) fail in relationships:
You know somebody is doing something important from 3-4PM this afternoon. What do you do? Most would say, “leave them alone, like don’t call or text”. Who are you representing when you do that?
The person doing the important thing will obviously shut off their ringer, so you can text and call all you want. And in fact you should. Why? Because when that important thing is done, they’ll want to see whatever was natural in their dynamics sitting there in their inbox.
Doing this honours the sender and the receiver, with each party representing themselves. And once again, the outcome is the optimal. So don’t represent other people!
